Christian author Beth Moore says in her book Breaking Free, “Esteem basically means respect.” If we accept this definition as a foundation for building self-esteem, one conclusion regarding having and building a healthy self image/esteem should be that it must find its root in respecting that we are God’s creation. But, I know this one statement is not enough to move many people from a place of having an unhealthy self-image/esteem to a healthy one.
Just as there are many thoughts regarding the definition of self-esteem, the same holds true for thoughts regarding how to build it. I found steps from three, to five, to ten, to twenty and more. Therefore, I concluded it was best to approach this matter by going to the original source. I thought it would be best to go to the Maker, the one who made each one of us a designer’s original. I started to consider the cost Jesus paid for me, the price He paid to redeem me as a believer from the curse of sin and death. I started to think about the sacrifice He made to redeem me and make me as a believer healthy and whole in body, soul and spirit. Having these thoughts, I found that there was only one worthy thought to have in my mind regarding my self-esteem and that thought is “Value-added.” Yes, I know this thought can be easier said than received because, you and I live in a world that often chooses to highlight the negative instead of the positive. This leaves a residue of negativity and inferiority on you and me alike. However, we should not be discouraged if we determine in our minds to live in a God conscience way that will build our self-esteem. How can this be accomplished? Here are a few tips.
How to build Self-esteem spiritually
- When you are depressed, feeling alone, friends betray you and you think you re unloved…. remember, Proverbs 18:24, “Jesus is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
- When you are feeling rejected and unwanted … remember Deuteronomy 4:31, “For the Lord your God is a merciful God; he will not abandon or destroy you …”
- If you have and are being verbally or physically abused…..remember Jeremiah 29:11, “God says, For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord,” plans to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you hope and a future.”
- If you look in the mirror and have a tendency to not see the beautiful person God made regardless of physical size, skin color, hair length, or any other aspect of outer beauty you are not pleased with – remember…Psalm 139:14, “God says you are fearfully and wonderfully made.”
- When thoughts enter your mind that do not line up with what God’s says about you…remember Genesis 1:26, “Then God said, “Let us make man in our image….”
Unlike the American statement “made in America”, the statement “made in God’s image” will never lose value. God, our creator who made all things good and who also loves us enough to send His only begotten son to die for our sins while we were sinners considered you and me worth it. He considers us as being priceless. I wonder if He looks at you and me through the blood of Jesus saying Value-added.